You can’t be everything to everyone. This statement cannot be more true. Some people will love you, others will hate you. Yet, others will try to mold you into what they want instead of letting you just be you. If you aren’t yourself, then who are you?

I think many adults struggle with this in personal relationships and so do adult entertainers when they first start out in the business. Not all of them but I’m betting quite a few. You can lose yourself while trying to be someone else, you forget who you are.

Have you considered that the reason for their dislike of you or certain qualities you have has NOTHING to do with you?

“Stay true to yourself” is the best advice I have ever been given. I do what is right for me. It may not be right for everyone, people may not agree with it but if I cared what people think then I wouldn’t be an adult entertainer. Some people’s opinions really do matter to me but my own opinion of myself is what matters the most. I love myself, what I do for a living and I won’t apologize for it and neither should any other entertainer.

I got an email one day telling me that he didn’t buy the whole “happy with myself act” Well, sorry hon, it isn’t an act. Now there is an example of someone not happy with themselves and having to project it onto someone else.

“Life sucks but at least I’m not…(Fill in the blank)” Oh yeah, someone has some issues. Maybe they weren’t hugged enough as a child?

Just letting my mind wander onto the computer screen…

Everyone thinks I’m so sweet, well, that’s true, I’m a very sweet person, but I have a devious naughty side too. The side that is into BDSM, tying people up, and all the non-vanilla stuff that most people are afraid to talk about even though they are curious.

Lol, its funny how I am asked by clients to help them explore the darker side of companionship yet the interject immediately with,” I just don’t think you can be mean or strict enough” They soon find out otherwise. Its like a switch is flipped on the wall, Sarah is switched from sweet and demure, to the cruel Mistress that they have been dreaming of.

Some of the Activities to Included:

Slut Training
Slave Training
Sissyfying
Corporal Punishment-slapping, caning, flogging, spanking, ect
Bondage
Foot, High heel, and Stocking fetish/worship
Humiliation
Sensory Deprevation

The Little Mistress
I’ve devoted an entire website to my darker side. This would not be for your normal companionship or the light of heart but for those who want to explore BDSM and having a Mistress. I’m sure I’ll get the confused client every once in awhile. You see, Mistresses don’t do escort services, hence the different websites to make that clear. Rates for domination are $500/hour

There is also a blog there where I will be doing some writing, talking about BDSM and my darker fantasies.

I’ve got www.sarahblakebondage.com still in the works as well for this fall. I’m a switch by nature so you’ll see me in the role of both a Dom and a Sub.

I keep seeing this and I have to laugh. Its so cute and reminds me of a series called the Million Dollar Man and there is another one with a woman but I can’t remember the name of it. I’m not a robot but I am a lover of Sci-Fi so it tickled my fancy.

After many posts speculating why, complaining, whining, bitching, and boobie hate mail(LOL) because of the choices I made, I just have one thing to say: FUCK OFF! You sound like a bunch of old biddies!

I turn 28 this coming week, yes 28. That’s right, I’m on the better part of almost 30 now. I’m not 18 and I don’t really give a rat’s ass what people think. I’m me, feisty, daring, shoots from the hip, and doesn’t take any shit…so look out.

I got an email a few weeks ago from someone just plain being an ass. I get these daily, even before I changed my look, but I just let the guy have it. He replied back that I wasn’t the nice person I claimed to be. Well, I never claimed to be nice or a doormat either. I’m not required be pleasant after a sorry attempt to insult me. I don’t understand why people think you have to be nice to them after they act like complete jerks.

So, I didn’t change my look for money, for someone else, to prove anything, or to try to look like everyone else. The hair is an experiment and its fun to change, morph into and change back at a whim, which I will do whenever I feel like it. I wrote a blog all about why I changes but I guess the board whores don’t understand how to read anything but the tattoos on the small of backs. If they really wanted to know, they could read my diary. That would just take considerably too much effort and its much more fun to make things up and speak of the downfall I am possibly taking. Some people have way too much time on their hands.

I usually try to keep my writings light and not rant, bitch or complain much but today I couldn’t help myself. I have received several emails with just a name and a phone number. Oh Yay! I utilize the “delete” button if not reply with a smart ass answer. Not only are they one line emails that have no personality to speak of, now the fools want me to call them. I know they didn’t care to read my website so if they don’t care to read, I don’t care to speak to them.

Why I hate the phone or my aversion to it:

1. Inappropriate Questions-I’m not going to talk about sex, acts, or money, so what else is there but to get screening info and talk about scheduling or where to meet for dinner?

2. Heavy Breathers-I’m just not very good at that whole phone sex stuff. I tried it in college and even then I got paid for it!

3. Being asked to describe myself- Now, this one kinda cracks me up. Didn’t they get the phone number from an ad or my website in the first place? I even had a few ask my stats, yes, they said stats. Ads are for advertising, I’m not about to go into some sales rap about myself. Some may see this as a missed opportunity but then again, those questions only lead to # 1 and #2 anyway.

4. Time is of the Essence There is nothing wrong with a friendly chat or getting know know someone for a few minutes but some people would literally try to keep me on the phone for over an hour. This just took up most of my time and I couldn’t get anything done! Some just like to waste time anyway and never book an appt.

5. I ask the questions here I can’t very well book an appt with no screening info. It says I screen on my ads, WTF?

So, in conclusion, I don’t post a phone number anymore. Its email only and I do give a private number out to those visiting me so they can call when they arrive. Its the first time inquiries that I don’t use the phone for.