In our journey of exploration, we learn about ourselves everyday. Situations change, feelings change, and what you once thought may not be true now. It is what makes you beautiful, this ability to learn, grow, change, and evolve. I think that many of of have a need to define ourselves and others, although we may buck against it like a restrained deer. It doesn’t mean you need a “label” or defined for society’s sake to understand you. Society is a fickle ignorant idea and you can’t expect it to understand your unique nature. We are in a constant state of flux as we go through this life that can leave us feeling a bit confused, certainly when coming into our own as individuals.Finding meaning for yourself is what I am talking about

When I first learned about BDSM I was nervous, excites, and a bit reluctant. My first experience was at a photo shoot. My agent at the time did not tell me that it was a fetish shoot, that they were going to tie me up, have a fake gun or play kidnap me. I was a bit aggravated to say the least. I almost left the shoot but the people I met there were very kind and patient with me. They understood that I was new and didn’t know what I was getting into when I showed up that day. They told me it was fine if I didn’t want to continue with the shoot. I was so impressed with their gentle nature and understanding that I decided to try it out. Again, with patience and kindness they used rope and explained everything to me.

Something special happened that day. I realized that being bound was like being hugged. It wasn’t scary, it was relaxing and comfortable. I went on to do many shoots and loved the bondage, the corporal punishment…especially the corporal punishment. What I didn’t realize then but realize now is that I am not a submissive at all. I would “act” submissive in order to get the kind of play I wanted but submissive did not give me peace like was described to me. After the play was over, I didn’t feel that I wanted to continue to submit. What I realize is that I was a masochist. I still get my masochistic play on camera when I am filming for my various websites and will “bottom” on other sites. I used to think that I was just rebelling due to my independent nature but upon becoming more educated, I learned a great deal about myself. After a play session or shoot where I was bottoming, I took time for myself to analyze my feelings. I was happy that I pleased others but it was not something I wanted on a constant basis. It didn’t fulfill me. A dear friend of mine once told me that I wasn’t a submissive and she could tell. We were going to dinner after a play session and she leaned over to me and said”You know, you really aren’t submissive, you are a bottom at best” I adamantly refused to believe this. I replied,”No, I am a submissive!” She told me that I would realize it one day as I learn more about myself and she was right.Although I am very good at acting as though I am submissive, its not my nature.

Many people will feel confused by reading this on a Mistress website as not many Mistresses will ever admit to being submissive. Some people will argue with me abd say that I couldn’t possible be anything but a submissive because they saw it in me. I believe some of the best Dominants were submissive or bottoms at one point or another. At the very least, they should be tied up and know what each implement they wield feels like. Having an understanding of what the submissive is going through helps me be more intuitive, understanding, and gives me great pleasure because I know what effect I am having on them. Being submissive and having sessions as a bottom has made me a better Domme. So what is my true nature you ask? I am really a Sadistic Dominant with masochistic tenancies. You may see me refer to myself as a switch in many places though. Depending on who you talk to, they may define me as a switch. Does this mean I will allow you to spank me or other types of bottoming activities with you? Absolutely not! I will not submit or bottom for you and asking me to will not get you the desired response. You will only receive silence or if we are in a session, the session will end abruptly and we will part ways.

I started to Dominate men as an escort about 4 years ago. Although I no longer escort, I do not regret this time I spent in the company of men, women and couples in that way. I learned a great deal about people, men, and myself. I began to realize that I didn’t enjoy the appointments so much as the control I could have over the client, how I could control the conversation, lead the appointment any way I wanted, I could take his control over the time we had together. I sometimes made it a game to see how dominant I could get before the client would not like it. I am very good at watching subtle body language cues and when they displayed the slightest discomfort, I would pull back and they would be comfortable again. Many would not be uncomfortable at all and before they knew it we were having a BDSM session and they hadn’t planned on it. They were introduced into many things that were enjoyable for both of us. I found myself becoming quite bored with vanilla sex. Not that they weren’t exciting people, I was just disinterested. When I client mentioned foot fetish, spanking, bondage or other various BDSM activities, I would become so excited! These are the things I craved and looked forward too. That’s when I realized that I wasn’t interested in escorting any longer. It wasn’t doing anything for me like the BDSM appts were. I made a Mistress website while I transitioned out of escorting. I even tried it again to see if maybe I just needed a break, but no, its not for me. I am not interested in being an object of pleasure, in entertaining someone else for money. I am much happier being worshiped, given tribute, teaching protocol, training, punishing and being entertained by my slaves. Its something I adore and I am not sure who enjoys sessions more, myself or my submissives!

I was quickly put at ease when my fans started to enter the chatroom and talk with me. My nerves calmed and then it started to get really fun! I remembered why I loved the webcam chat so much and kick myself for not doing it sooner:)

I will be going live tonight too at 3pm Pacific time/6pm EST)

You can see my profile and other goodies here:

We need time to screen you: As much as we would all love to get a phone call and run, its just not possible these days. Our safety and security is more important than money.

We are already with a client: Some of our clients plan well in advance and at times we are able to spend more than a few fleeting hours with them. It could be a lunch date, a dinner, or maybe an all day vent of naughty fun and sight-seeing.

Other Jobs: Yes, many of us have other jobs such as any other peson in the world. I myself, have adult websites that I run, update, and shoot for on a weekly basis. I also write part time for some blogs, articles and am working on a few other website projects to diversify my income.

Family: Just as you, we have family obligations to our children, parents, boyfriends/husbands and even our little furry faced pets.

Friends: If in the event that we are not busy, we are many times with friends, decompressing after a long day, shopping, shooting the breeze, or helping each other with thier projects.

Ourselves: Sometimes we don’t answer the phone because we need some time off. Being a private companion is much more than just answering the phone/email and going to see a client.

My point is that planning ahead will make any encounter more enjoyable than a last minute search. You can avoid many of the bait n switch agencies, rip-offs, and other nasties out there.

When is last minute ok? Well, you should already be an established client, have a bit of luck, and be one of the sweethearts that we don’t mind changing our plans for

I haven’t been in Chicago for over a year and I am so excited to be back, visit friends amd make new friends! The last time I was there it was much warmer and I visited the Aquarium. I may not get to do that this time but I am sure to find some exciting things to do.

I need to venture out anyway to find a market for food. I can’t really rely on the room service menu and yuck, all hotel food tastes the after awhile! I’ll have to pick up some candles, fruit, snack veggies,wine, and see what Chicago offers for gluten free options. I’m sure they probably have a Whole Foods or a similar store. I’m excited to explore the health food stores in all the cities that I plan to visit:)

I guess there has been a lot of speculation and rumor about when I wasn’t available like I was arrested, had a baby, lol, and a few other funny ones. The fact is that I have been sick and it has been awful. Those the spread the rumors won’t read my blogs to see the real reason but hey, if they are talking about me, they are leaving other people alone right? Right.

So my mom was wathing TV and saw a show on Celiac Disease and all the symptoms seemed to ring true with what my symptoms are. This week I started a new diet that is gluten free and I am already feeling better. I am trying it until Friday to see the real result and the doctor said it can take as little as 3 days to tell a difference. I am seeing a difference already because I am not bloated and I seem to not be retaining as much water. My face isn’t as full(water retention) and I have lost a few pounds, and my energy and mood seem to be in much better shape than last week. Last week was also a great week in NYC but when you aren’t feeling well, you can be in paradise and be grouchy.
I should know for sure in a few days but so far, I am feeling much better. I don’t have to go lay down after I eat and I’m not popping tums or other acid reflux meds like candy. Wish me luck, I think I have this thing figured out and its ass kicked!

If you have pain after eating or any of the symptoms I meantioned abovve, check out Celiac.com for more information

I went to a local comedy club the other night and wow, I have to go all the time now! Or at least when I am in town. Each comedian had their own style and it was so much better than watching them on comedy central. They played off the crowd heckled some people, and everyone laughed, even the ones that were heckled. Some of the jokes were so off the cuff that the comedians were laughing at themselves. Afterward, I explored a local strip club and had such a great time. The staff were very nice and watchful, the girls were all beautiful and kind. Their sweet attitudes made it so much more enjoyable than some of the other clubs I have been in. They actually seemed happy! It reminded me of how much fun I had as a dancer in Memphis, TN In our economic climate I hear about dancers are having a very hard time. Maybe it depends on the city and I guess it would depend on the club.

I have had some amazing food while I have been here and I really don’t mean anything special. Its the normal restaurant fare, nothing fancy, and that is just fine with me. I love to try new things but having good ‘ol American cuisine is something that when done right, can have you smiling for hours about it. Lol, I am such a foodie!

I am here fr the next couple days

Starting in December, if you are a member of the militarty, and that means any branch, then I am happy to give you a special price that is discounted from the rates listed on my website. Of course, you will have to show me your military ID when we meet. I will not accept scanned copies of your ID in an email because that is not allowed. Simply seeing it in person will suffice.

This discount rate for military will go on until the end of March. Since I will be in DC in March, that should make a few troops very happy. I am not going to publish the discounted rate because for those who don’t read but only skim my website, they won’t understand the 2 different rates…and that will lead to whining. And there will be NO WHINING from those that aren’t military,lol. They earned it, they went through boot camp and risk thier lived so you can be free.

This is just one small way that I am able to give back to you!

(Plus, I drool over them them enough, my reasons are also a bit selfish if you get my meaning)

For credit card payment, I require that the card be run at the beginning of our time together. There should never be any need to discuss the financial arrangement, unless the client wishes to extend. If this is the case, then the extension should be resolved quickly and discreetly.

Advance payment is welcome by Greendot only. Please email me for details on this option.

Here is some recent news:)

Travel: I will be in NYC from the 5th-10th
I am taking a short trip to Virginia and then heading up to New York City where I am available for Incall and Outcall

My scheule is filling up so contact myself or my assistant to book time with me

While I am in NYC, for those of you who enjoy the darker side of companionship, I am also aviable for Pro Domme sessions. You can find session ifno and rates here: http://www.thelittlemistress.com

Remember that I am not available same day, not even if you bring donuts,lol. Seriously though, it can take awhile for references to get back to me, plus same day appts are a security issure for me.

I am now accepting Visa and Mastercard for our time together whether escort or ProDomme appts!

Upcoming Trips:
January: Los Angeles, Boston,Philly
Febuary: Tampa, Miami, and Ft. Lauderdale
March: Washington DC

SarahBlake.com News:
Several hundres videos are now being added to http://www.sarahblake.com that had not been added during the redesign. The old video diaries, bts files and of course the blowjob and vids of me getting off are all being re-added. Also, if you disn’t get a chance to see my webcam shows, they are all rebroadcasted onto my website in the video section.

Pay Per View:
Don’t like membership and or worrying that you will forget to cancel/don’t want the hassle? Then no worries…you can purchase any of my video clips and soon any of my photosets with no membership needed!
Visit http://www.sarahblakePPV.com and see the videos at your leisure

Ebooks and other Digital Goodies:
Of course “How to Become a POrn Star” is avaiable at my store http://www.sarahblakestore.com where you can purchase memorabilia, signed DVD’s and even my panties

The news I want to share is that I have aquired a new merchant account that allows me to sell ebooks, teleseminars, PPV items, tip-guides, and other digital products.
I have aquired the domain SexyEBook.com and plan to have all my “How To’s” for the adult industry but also other writing projects that I have been meaning to get to. I have a diary that dates back to 2003 when I first started out in the adult film industry. I plan to break that up, fill in the blanks and reveal more info, pictures and other juicy goodies on a year by year basis.

Sarah Blake’s VIP Program:
Planning is inthe works for a megasite that has all the content fro all the websites including adding the content from the upcoming sites all in one place. This website is going to have daily updates, possible multiple daily updates, VIP only content, more candid shots of me, more personal interaction, more live feeds, more chat: both text chat and webcam, Dicsount on my upcoming DVD lines, and direct access to myself on a daily basis. All the peices are slowly coming together now and I should have it built by this spring. The pricing will save you money verses joining all 5 websites and in the beginning you can get locked in at the price in case the cost goes up, your membership never does. There will also be monthly contests to give-away all sorts of fun experiences with me
A word of warning: This website is for the UBER Fan not for the casual porner by any means.

If you have suggestions for the VIP website please email me at admin@sarahblakeinc.com

I’m also planning on looking up my relatives that immigrated over. I heard there was a register that you can find the original signatures from when they arrived in New York. Hopefully the Statue of Liberty is open as well. In all my travels I hadn’t really made time to just go be a tourist. Some things are more important than working all the time and I have to remember that, workaholic that I am.

Its going to be cold but I will be bringing my long coat, leather gloves, and a warm fuzzy scarf to keep me warm. This would be a good opportunity to buy some new winter clothing, although Las Vegas mostly offers the lighter side of winter wardrobe. Its a bit too thin and does not fare well against the snow and ice. I may have to wait util I am there and brave out the cold to get some sweaters