Boundaries

Sometimes my Midwestern charm gets me into trouble. I adore my clients and they know it. Heck, they can tell I enjoy them without me even saying a word. I look at each rendezvous as a once in a lifetime experience. I may never get to see this person ever again, so I try my best to make it the best I can make it:)

The trouble with that is some people don’t see the arrangement as temporary or forget the limitations of our relationship. It really makes me sad when this happens because it changes the nature of things. It makes me worry because now there are feelings floating around that may not be mutual. My job is to make them smile, entice them, let them be themselves and reveal parts about them they may not even realize are there. I get to be MS. Right Now, but I’m sometimes mistaken for Ms. Right.

Many times, the relationship may run its course as companion and client, and that is completely understandable and a good thing. Its not a good thing when one person lets themselves go to far into the fantasy. I can usually tell when this happens but not always. Sometimes I wonder why I haven’t seen a particular client only to find that they had an emotional reaction that they did not expect and decided it was better if they did not see me.

Like I said, I adore my clients, but I do not love them. I will not marry a client, or date one outside of the boundaries set forth in this different sort of business arrangement. Do I fantasize and let my mind wander a little? Of course! Some of my clients are some of the most amazing people I have ever met! I relish the time I have with them and think naughty thoughts about them periodically, but I don’t love them. I keep my emotions in check by knowing the the most I can have with them is a great friendship and naughty fun.

That being said it is a good reminder that that special companion is just that, a special companion. Yes, people have feelings and emotions don’t run logically. Please remember to cherish your favorites and not put them in a position where they may not want to see you again, and for heaven’s sake, don’t email and call her everyday. That’s just creepy!